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Permalink Reply by marie taylor on August 11, 2009 at 2:17pm

Thank you for your answer you know my husband is what I would concider a sick man you know he was brought up strict babtist his mother does not know this other side of her son she would die if she did this is a man who knows the bible but I believe has some demons he is what some would concider a womanizer he is so into women we have had it out over porn which I have told him wicth I told him will not happen in this house I mean the first thing he would do when he got up wad look at that I put a stop to that.he also wants to go to a nudist camp he runs around naked all the time and want to really live in one of those places.I really have my hands full and really don't know how to handle al of this marie

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Permalink Reply by marie taylor on August 27, 2009 at 5:43pm

Thank u for your come back marie

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Permalink Reply by Mel Shadows on August 11, 2009 at 3:46am

My advice, do what you can to get out and leave. This is not a good situation to be in. Not saying divorce him just yet, I'm saying leave and let there be some space and time between you.

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Permalink Reply by marie taylor on August 11, 2009 at 2:24pm

Hi mel thank you for your answer this man knows the bible and was raised strick babtist he even wants me to have sex in publix places and wants me to go to nudist camps with him he likes to run around naked and says he wants to live in one of these places I think this man has some demons and really needs help marie

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Permalink Reply by Tanya Marie Wilson on August 12, 2009 at 4:07am

I hope first of all that by putting his hands on you means hurting you. This is my testimony to you I married a man that I to thought I loved so deeoply but through out the 13 years yes long years I foud I did not know him at all. He to ask me on several different times the same question at that time in my lifIe i also was on drugs and we had a tv in our room it made me sick to go in there he always had it on porn. I was my no means raised this way my family was very strong Christian and I too did not know what to do and was to ashmed to tell anyone I ws in this situation. He was also very abbuseive to me. I started going to church and I prayed and beg God to get me out of all of this and he did. But I am not done the cops removed him out of our home and I began to pack my things to leave and hidden in places nearly right under my nose was 37 sex toys none of those beling to me. Pray and I was you i would look to the future you are so right no one could love with rel love and want to share something so percious that is a act of deep love for only you and your husband to share and keep to yourselfs. I hope this helps and I am going to pray so hard for you. May God Bless

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Permalink Reply by LYNET MUOKA on August 26, 2009 at 2:30pm

Hi Marie,i hope my reply does not come too late.
i wont pretend to know what you are going through,but i can assure you that our God is able to do whatever we need of Him.
i do not agree that leaving your husband will help.if you guys made your vows before God that only death should separate you,then it should be so.
you cant be praying and quiting on your hubby at the same time.that wouldnt be faith at all.
yes,the man is sick and needs help.he needs your support.if he was brought up a christian then his case cant be that hopeless.there is a fear of the Lord somewhere in him.with prayers and councelling the guy will reform.think of all the people you know who strayed and later found their way back.we know of the prodigal son and many others in our lives.Please dont leave your man now.it may seem the easiest way out,but is it the best??
get all the lessons you can get from your situation,could be that you are being prepared for something(gold through fire).remember God does not give us more than we can handle.

take heart.
God bless you.

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Permalink Reply by Cheyenne Lea on April 10, 2010 at 11:46pm

I want to be careful how this comes across,so I'll try to use caution,Just because you've read the Bible or go to church any more than putting a bike into a garage makes it a car...sin is in hearts and people will do what their desires are if God doesn't dwelll within,we haven't the willpowe on our own,God has to come into our hearts first and then we can have a different desire,a clean and wholesome one..I,too believe marriage should be forever,however I truely believe there are some things that God hates,He burned Sodom and Gorramah for the exceeding sins,,,,,I had the same type marriage,yet worse life with my husband and I prayed for an answer and a couple days later,things really blew and I stepped out in faith and left..I still have a love for my husband but I feel so much more peace since then,,,if He gives his heart to God,I could accept that and take him back,however his mind is so wrapped into this lifestyle that my leaving seems to have given him frredom to do whatever...God hates these sins and so do I..I pray for him and I'll be praying for your husband..Sincerely...

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