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Comment by Yvonne 2 on July 23, 2010 at 6:42pm

This is really good the article below, worth a read. :0)

Comment by Yvonne 2 on July 23, 2010 at 6:33pm

MARRIAGE - Thursday, July 1, 2010 at 5:45pm

When I got home that nig Thursday, as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.

So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6
Powerful, awesome

By: Stephanie Hamilton Brown

Comment by Yvonne 2 on July 23, 2010 at 2:16pm

Via Comedy group, via BibleBook4Me

40 years of marriage...

A married couple in their early 60s was celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary in a quiet, romantic little restaurant.

Suddenly, a tiny fairy appeared on their table. She said, 'For being such an exemplary married couple and for being loving to each other for all this time, I will grant you each a wish.'
The wife answered, 'Oh, I want to travel around the world with my darling husband'.
The fairy waved her magic wand and - poof! - two tickets for the Queen Mary II appeared in her hands.

The husband thought for a moment: 'Well, this is all very romantic, but an opportunity like this will never come again. I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me'.

The wife and the fairy were deeply disappointed, but a wish is a wish. So the fairy waved her magic wand and - poof!... - the husband became 92 years old.

Comment by Yvonne 2 on February 13, 2010 at 12:31pm

Luke put this on the main videos:


For Life - Isis Gee; Lyrics

I had no choice
Perfectly clear from the start
I heard your voice... See More
And I was falling

Into a space
Where daylight kisses moonlit skies
It was the place
Was written in your eyes

And oh, we made it
We finally found our way
And celebrating
Just where we, we stand today

I’ll let my heart show the way
Oceans and mountains between us
Because your love is why
You made the wrong right

I will give my all
I will heed your call
For life

I had no choice
Perfectly clear from the start
I will rejoice
Embrace your calling

And into a space
Where daylight breathes within your heart
You found my heart
And I knew it was for life

I’ll let my heart show the way
Oceans and mountains between us
Because your love is why
You made the wrong right

I will give my all
For life
For life

Comment by Yvonne 2 on February 11, 2010 at 1:19pm

Woman to Woman today Thur 11, Feb 2010

Talking about porn. These days it can be a problem for women as well as men, they have seen a rise in women struggling with this.

A few notes I took.

Men are usually seduced through the eye gates, where as women seem to be seduced through what they hear.

Men look for love and communion, Women are looking for communion.

Being attracted to someone isn't lust, it is natural and God given, and is healthy.
(my note, but there are God given boundaries on that !)

Women long to be a treasure; porn turns that into a target.
Men long to be a protector; lust turns it into a predititor.

People interested in finding out more about help available can go to their site:
Woman to Woman today Thur 11, Feb 2010

Talking about porn. These days it can be a problem for women as well as men, they have seen a rise in women struggling with this.

A few notes I took.

Men are usually seduced through the eye gates, where as women seem to be seduced through what they hear.

Men look for love and communion, Women are looking for communion.

Being attracted to someone isn't lust, it is natural and God given, and is healthy.
(my note, but there are God given boundaries on that !)

Women long to be a treasure; porn turns that into a target.
Men long to be a protector; lust turns it into a predititor.

People interested in finding out more about help available can go to their site:
www.whodoesithurt.com

Comment by Yvonne 2 on February 10, 2010 at 3:58pm

On premier, Woman to Woman Shara Grylls (Bear Grylls wife) shared about marriage. And has written a book with quotes in, for marriages called, ' Marriage Matters.'
And is quite light hearted. Would make a good present for couples getting married.

Also for couples cellebrating wedding anniversarys.

http://www.sharagrylls.com/

Comment by john on February 8, 2010 at 5:56pm

I have found that Trust is a must in a marraige, without this it will have less chance of working, also to spend time together and talk openly about your feelings builds a bigger bond between you.

Comment by Yvonne 2 on February 8, 2010 at 5:47pm

National Marraige Week

On Premier Drvie, they had a couple Bob and Cheryl Moeller who have written the book,
' A Marriage miracle.'
' It sounds really good. They explains that 90% of problems come in before the marriage, from bagagge into the marriage.

Hidden pain, hurts can harden hearts. This is about unlocking where a heart may have got hard due to pain.
They have found that after studing this and aplying this, that a partner has found themselves attracted to their spouse, where they weren't before.
Unfortuantly they find a common problem is where there has been abuse experienced in someones back ground.

The heart is the place, where you give and recieve love.
Hard hearts can't connect.
Forgiveness, and discovering where we need to unlocks our hearts.
Prayer unlocks hearts.

NEW BOOK!
1. The Marriage Miracle: How Soft Hearts Can Make a Couple Strong
By Bob and Cheryl Moeller

This exciting new release shows couples how to resolve their marriage relationships by softening their hearts toward one another. Scripture based and story-driven, this book walks couples through the process of liberation and sets them free to embrace all that God intended for their marriage.
Hurts and pain can cause people to become shut down and detached.
Wounded, broken hearts,

Change the relationship and not the spouse.

Cheryl said you can buy this at any Christian book shop.

Paperback. 256 pages. Harvest House Publishers
http://www.bobandcherylmoeller.com


Dave Rose and Bridgitte Tetteh suggested romantic love letters, and poems.

And asked the question, what does your spouse do that makes you smile?

Comment by Yvonne 2 on February 8, 2010 at 1:05pm

A suggested way to pray for protection over familys from the Copelands:

One way you can do that is ' I claim Psalm 91 over........', and/or
' I plead the blood of Jesus over...........' which can be a person, or property.
Kenneth Copeland, says if you can do this daily over family, realitives, as we are living in dangerous times.
If you pray it daily, there is a build up in power. K Copeland says to pray a little often is better, than to just spend one section in prayer for a long time over something (talking to myself here too)

I used to, I do it when need, but maybe should get back to this again.

Gloria Copeland did this when there was a very bad storm over a meeting. She also prays it over her town if there is a bad storm for example.

If you want to know more, one of their daughters wrote a book 'protect your children in dangerous times.'

Even Though the World Has Changed, God's Word Will Never Change!

"This is a very important book for this dangerous hour in which we live. Read it until fear is flushed out of your life...." - Kenneth Copeland

During these dangerous and uncertain times it's easy to find ourselves feeling afraid. And there is nothing the enemy enjoys more than seeing God's people live in fear. But we do not need to be afraid! God know what lies ahead in these last days and He has everything we need to see us through to victory over the enemy.

Kellie Copeland Kutz, daughter of Kenneth and Gloria Copeland has a real heart for the saftey of our children. In this powerful book, she outlines important keys to keeping yourself and your family safe during the uncertain days ahead. These life-changing principles will place you under divine protection as you learn:

What it means to plead the Blood of Jesus

How to release angels to operate on your behalf

How to really listen to your spirit

How to live in peace

at the moment £7.25

http://www.faithbuilders.co.uk/books/6030.htm

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